Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Disappointing

This situation has me so flustered and upset that I can barely even form a coherent sentance to properly describe it. In Wicca, we have but two rules to follow. Harm None and don't mess with free will. Casting a love spell to make someone love you is a big No-No. So when a person manipulates another it is troubling. When a person manipulates another using their heart and their love as the pivot, it goes well beyond troubling. Using a person's love against them to serve your own ends goes beyond appaling. It's downright criminal. Love is pure and to abuse it in this way leaves a stain. A mark on your spirit. I have seen the affects of PWS (For a rundown on PWS check out Brak's Blog. I believe it's public . . .) and it's associated disorders and syndromes first-hand. The shocking connection between these sufferers is that the people they chase are love abusers. They leach and control and manipulate and have no real knowledge of what love even is. Love is not conditional. Love is not subservient. Love is not "You scratch my back then get the hell out of my face." Love is equal and nurturing and unconditional. How is it that so many people have such a skewed idea of love? Friendship is love. It is, I dare say, a truer love than you find between a mother and child. Family is bonded in blood. You are, quite literally, connected to each other. Friends love each other without that inborn bond. True enough that friendships come and go with time and distance (among many other factors), as with anything else in nature. But in cases where PWS is present, the abuser creates a wedge, and the sufferer let's it happen. Even when s/he willingly recognizes and acknowledges that something is just not right! If your entire self-worth rests on the shoulders of a person who cuts you off from anything other than themself, you may suffer from a PWS affiliate condition. It kills me when a perfectly good friendship is torn apart by an unbalanced 3rd party. I have been told that I have a very 'fluffy bunny' view on life. Be a good person, help each other out, love one another, any problem can be solved without violence. I don't see this as a bad thing. Except when violent or neglectful or hateful hurtful things happen. Especially when they could be very well avoided. It cuts deeper because I just don't understand how people can be so mean and hateful and selfish and cruel. I do have my moments of anger, but I don't make a life out of it. Step back and regroup and take a good look at what you're doing. There are people who believe that "Good" would not be "good" without "Evil". I disagree. We do not need violent acts of savagery to know what "good" is! If you make your life selflessly helping those in need, it doesn't stop feeling right. If you put forth the effort to look at people as people and treat others as you would want to be treated, it doesn't become mundane. It spreads and comes back and feels better. Decietful acts breed paranoia like infection. Kind acts breed joy and satisfaction. Yin and Yang are not good and evil. They are opposites true, but natural opposites. Hot and cold, light and dark. We are humans. Supposing to be more advanced than our animal friends. So, honestly, people should know better than to treat other people like shit.

I guess 10 hours of trying to figure out how to put it in the most constructive/least offensive way just went out the window. There it all is. Heh. Like I was telling Emmy, it's your blog, write what you want. If people don't like it, they don't have to read it.

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